"Desire, connection, understanding... begin with safety."
1:1 Attachment Coaching with Verity
For Individuals Over 40 Ready to Heal Patterns at the Root
You don’t need to try harder.
You need to feel safer inside yourself.
Most relationship struggles don’t happen because you’re too much, too needy, too distant, or too sensitive.
They happen because old attachment patterns quietly take over, especially under stress, conflict, or intimacy.
You might recognise some of this:
💠You keep having the same emotional reaction, even when you promise yourself you won't
💠You over-explain, over-function, or over-give... then feel resentful
💠You shut down, withdraw, or avoid difficult convrsations
💠You struggle to ask for what you need
💠You feel anxious, unwanted, unseen, or "too much" in relationships
💠You unerstand your patterns... but don't seem to change
This is especially common in relationships over 40, where:
💠Patterns are deeply ingrained
💠Long-term relational woundds have layered over time
💠Life stress is higher
💠And your nervous system is tired of coping
This isn’t about fixing your partner.
(If you happen to have one)
It's about stabilising you.
Attachment patterns don't live in your thouoghts.
They live in your body.
That's why:
💠 Insight hasn't been enough
💠 Communication tools collapse under stress
💠 And good intentions disappear when you are triggered
The work we do together focuses on safety first - in your nervous system - so your relationships can change from the inside out.
How this work is different...
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Advice-giving
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Behaviour management
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Endless processing
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Blaming your past
This is not:
This is attachment-informed, nervous system-aware coaching that works with:
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Core wounds and limiting beliefs
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Personality needs you may have ignored
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Emotional regulation
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Behavioural patterns
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Boundaries and communication
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Shame, avoidance, anxiety, or over-funcctioning
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Coaches who don't want to rely on word-of-mouth an
We work at the root - not the surface.
"I feel confident and ok to say... I love myself. That's huge! It means I feel lovable, and not broken anymore. I feel worthy of my new partner and calm asking for my needs. It's like I'm a different person and living a new life. I can't thank you enough."
The 12-Week Structure
This is a guided, focused coaching process designed to create lasting change.
Each 60-minute session builds on the last.
We work through:
Awareness
💠 Mapping your attachment strategy
💠 Identifying triggers and protective behaviours
Regulation
💠 Nervous system stabilisation tools
💠 Learning to respond rather than react
Repatterning
💠 Communicating needs clearly
💠 Setting boundaries without guilt
💠 Shifting shutdown, people-pleasing, or pursuit patterns
Integration
💠 Practicing new behaviours in real-life relationships
💠 Reducing shame and self-criticism
💠 Building internal security
Real change requires repetition, safety, and structure.
That's what the 12 weeks provide.
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Individuals ready to take responsibility for their patterns
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People who want secure attachment from the inside out
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Those stuck in anxious, avoidant, or fearful cycles
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Anyone ready to reduce relationship pain at the root
Who this program is for:
Who this program is not for:
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Those wanting to "fix" someone else
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Those unwilling to explore their own behaviour patterns
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Active crisis situations requiring clinical intervention
Safety and readiness matter.
"I really appreciate you. I feel super blessed to have you guiding and shining the light so I can heal my wounds"
What becomes possible
Clients often experience:
💠 Less emotional reactivity
💠 Reduced anxiety or shutdown
💠 Clear boundaries
💠 Calmer communication
💠 Greater self-trust
💠 Feeling chosen - without chasing
💠 Feeling connected - without collapsing
Not because they became someone new - but because they finally felt safe enough to be themselves.
"Verity is nothing short of amazing!!! Her compassionate approach truly has helped me move forward and heal from past wounds. Most importantly, she's introducing me to a healthier version of myself."
Investment
Single Session – $107 USD
5-Session Package – $479 USD
12-Session Package – $1027 USD (saving of $257USD!)
12-Session Installments – 4 fortnightly payments of $269 USD
This is structured, high-touch, attachment-based work.
Not surface-level coaching.
Next Steps...
If this resonates, the next step is to book a session.
This is intentional work.
I offer limited places to ensure depth and safety.
(Those spaces will be further reduced over the next 6 months)
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this therapy?
No. This is attachment-informed coaching.
We focus on practical nervous system regulation, behavioural patterns, and real-life relational change - without a pathology lens.
Do I need to be in a relationship to do this?
Not at all.
This work supports you whether you're partnered, dating, healing after a breakup, or preparing for future relationships.
What if I already understand my attachment style?
That's great, insight is helpful.
Insight alone doesn't rewire your nervous system.
This process focuses on embodied change, not just awareness.
How long does it take to see change?
Many clients feel shifts in regulation and awareness within the first few sessions.
Deeper pattern change stabilises over the 12 weeks.
We will discuss goals early on in the coaching process so you can clearly know where you are headed and what you have achieved.
What happens after the 12 weeks?
Many clients choose to stay with coaching after the initial 12 weeks.
Depending on your attachment style, wounds, needs, relationship status, childhood... so many things affect how long you'll wish to continue the coaching! Reprogramming, embracing change, implementing new behaviours into your life - it can be a wild and truly wonderful journey. We won't rush you... and, we'll also help you make the most of every single session.
You'll have the option to continue with additional 4-week blocks or individual sessions if desired.
How do sessions work?
We meet for 60 minute sessions over zoom once a week (you'll be sent the link).
We have a process that we largely follow, ensuring you have a clear idea of your goals and achievements.
At times you'll be given worksheets for homework.
Next Steps...
If this resonates, the next step is to book a session.
This is intentional work.
I offer limited places to ensure depth and safety.
(Those spaces will be further reduced over the next 6 months)
Couples Coaching with Verity
Long-Term Relationships | Over 40 Love | Intimacy Challenges
Safe Together: Attachment Coaching for Couples.
Old patterns, triggers, and unspoken needs can quietly strain your relationship — especially later in life.
Safe Together shows couples over 40 how to create emotional safety, reconnect, and build intimacy without the push–pull or self-protective habits that keep repeating.
Through a combination of couple and individual coaching, you’ll learn to:
- Build emotional safety and trust with your partner
- Communicate needs clearly and positively
- Navigate conflict without slipping into old patterns
- Reconnect sexually and emotionally in ways that feel secure
- Support each other’s growth while maintaining your own individuality
This isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding how your nervous systems interact - and creating a relationship where love, care, and support can flow naturally, safely, and authentically.
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