Is this couples therapy?
No. This is attachment-informed couples coaching.
We focus on understanding your nervous systems, attachment patterns, and relational dynamics - and on building safety, connection, and intimacy in real time. It’s practical, structured, and relational, without a pathology or blame lens.


Do we need to be in crisis to do this work?
Not at all.
Some couples come in during a rupture or intimacy breakdown. Others come because they feel stuck, disconnected, or caught in repeating cycles. This work supports both… before things reach breaking point.


What if one of us is more motivated than the other?
This is very common.
You don’t need to be perfectly aligned or “on the same page” to begin. The structure includes both joint and individual sessions, which allows space for different starting points and paces.


What is the session structure and where do we meet?
Sessions are up to 60 minutes in length.

The guided coaching process includes:
- Couples sessions (60 mins)
- Individual sessions (60 mins or 30 mins, depending on the phase)
- All sessions are conducted over Zoom (free online meeting platform). This allows you to be in the comfort of your own home, office, or private space. I coach people from around the world. If you have a laptop/smart device… then we are good to go.

This blend of couple/individual sessions allows us to work with the relationship dynamic while also supporting each person’s nervous system and attachment patterns individually.


Will we talk about sex and intimacy?
Yes - gently, respectfully, and at your pace.

This work supports:
- emotional intimacy
- sexual disconnection or mismatched desire
- avoidance, pressure, shutdown, or performance anxiety
- rebuilding safety and desire over time

Nothing is forced. Safety comes first.


Is this about fixing my partner?
No... and that’s important.

This work isn’t about blame or changing one person.
It’s about understanding how your attachment systems interact and learning how to feel safe, connected, and responsive together.


What if we’ve already done therapy or coaching before?
That’s very common.
Many couples come to this work after insight hasn’t translated into lasting change. They understand each other better — but nothing actually feels different.

For some, couples therapy became a place to air grievances, to track who felt more “seen,” more supported, more “right.” It can turn into a subtle tit-for-tat dynamic.

Often, the more emotionally responsive partner ends up carrying the emotional labour.And many couples leave feeling like they failed… rather than recognising the approach simply didn’t meet the real need.

Attachment-based work doesn’t start with understanding.
It starts with felt safety.

Because without safety in the nervous system, insight doesn’t integrate, change doesn’t stabilise, and patterns don’t actually shift.

And that’s usually the missing piece.


How long does the process take?
This isn’t a one-session fix.

Healing attachment patterns takes:
-  awareness
-  repeated practice
-  nervous system regulation over time

The Safe Together 12 week guided program is designed to support real change without rushing or overwhelming either partner. Following the program you’ll be given the option to book further 4 week blocks and individual coaching sessions.


Is this suitable for couples over 40?
Yes - especially.

This work is particularly supportive for:
-  long-term relationships
-  midlife transitions
-  changing desire, bodies, or roles
-  relationships wanting depth, not just survival


How does the application and waitlist work?
After submitting an application:

-  you’ll be added to the waitlist
-  I’ll review for fit
-  if it feels aligned, I’ll reach out when a space becomes available

There’s no obligation and no pressure, just an intentional first step.